Affirming your loved one

Family support and acceptance means actively affirming a child’s identity to build their self-worth and self-esteem. This can be something as simple as telling your child that you love and support them no matter how they identify.

Protecting your loved one

The stigma and discrimination often experienced by LGBTQ+ youth increase their risk for substance use and addiction. You can protect your child by affirming their identity, encouraging healthy behaviors and responding effectively to signs of use.

Getting help when needed

If your child needs help for a substance use disorder or addiction, it’s important to consider their specific needs as an LGBTQ+ person.

More LGBTQ+ articles

Learn more about the LGBTQ+ community, and how to be a stronger ally for your child.

Preventing Substance Abuse Among LGBTQ Teens

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Looking for LGBTQ-Friendly Treatment for Your Child? Here are 9 questions to ask.

Lack of support and bullying by other patients are among reasons that LGBTQ people are more likely to quit treatment early. Learn how to choose an identity-affirming treatment program. Read More

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Resources for Parents and Caregivers of LGBTQ+ Youth

The stigma and discrimination often experienced by LGBTQ+ youth increase their risk for substance use and addiction. The following organizations are a great place to begin connecting with the LGBTQ+ community and discovering how to become a stronger ally for your child. Read More

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Additional resources

Connect with the LGBTQ+ community and begin discovering how to become a stronger ally for your child.

The Family Acceptance Project

Uses a research-based, culturally grounded approach to help ethnically, racially and religiously diverse families learn to support their LGBTQ children.

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The Trevor Project

Offers educational resources for parents through the Trevor Support Center, where individuals can find answers to frequently asked questions and explore resources related to sexual orientation, gender identity and more.

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PFLAG

PFLAG is the nation’s largest family and ally organization with more than 400 chapters and 200,000 members and supporters across America.

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What does it mean to affirm your child?

The Family Acceptance Project, a leading non-profit supporting LGBTQ+ people, offers research-backed examples of how to affirm your child.

Express affection

when your child tells you, or you learn that they are gay or transgender.

Support your child’s gender expression.

Ask your child about their LGBTQ+ identity even though you may feel uncomfortable.

Advocate for them

if they are mistreated because of their identity. Require that others respect your LGBTQ+ child.

Welcome your child’s LGBTQ+ friends and partners

to your home.

Connect your child

with an LGBTQ+ adult role model and to supportive organizations or events.

Talk with clergy

and help your faith community to support LGBTQ+ people.

Believe your child can have a happy future

as an LGBTQ+ adult.

This doesn’t mean that you have to hide your feelings as your child will know if you aren’t being honest. You can share your concerns if any and let them know that you love them. In families where acceptance is high, the majority of LGBTQ+ youth believe that they can have a happy, rewarding life as adults.