How Do I Deal with the Emotional Rollercoaster of My Child’s Addiction?

When your child is struggling with drugs or alcohol, it can be surprising and overwhelming just how much your emotions can vary minute to minute or day to day. One moment you can be completely sad. But perhaps the next moment you can find a glimmer of hope for improvement. Those emotions can quickly turn to anger, frustration, hopelessness. How do you deal with all of this and still keep a level head to be able to help your child?

It’s completely normal to be going through all of these emotions. But it’s important to learn how to accept and manage them, in order to be your best, helpful, most supportive self.

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    December 12, 2018 at 10:19 PM

    Hello, My son is definitely self medicating. I almost don’t blame him. I’m a social worker and he has been on 15 different medications since he was five and now on at 17 he is on an antidepressant and intubiv. The side effects of the ADHD meds have almost been crippling. I drug screened him all the time and he is pos. for marijuana. I don’t want him to use but he is finally happy and normal, except his eyes are always red and Grrr! I don’t know what to do because it is illegal and even if it was legal he would fail a screen for marijuana. He is now “dabbing” which is scary because it is more concentrated. Since using, his grades have gone way up and he is a joy to live with and fun to be around, unlike when he was unhappy and miserable. He is a bit lazy now. Drugs suck! I have been to so so many drug conferences for my work and I know how horrible this is. I was an investigator for Children’s Division and know the reprocussions and what it leads to. I don’t completely condone his actions but I don’t want him to use. I’m scared and I don’t know what to do. He is LD with severe sensory problems and slightly autistic. Is it okay to feel this way? I don’t know where he is getting his drug and he has always made curfew. I have found the drug, and used paraphernalia. The counselor I heard could take him isn’t calling me back and I’m afraid to put him in a group to bond with someone who may be into more leather drugs. Am I supposed to feel this way. I think I need counseling as much as he does because I wouldn’t be condoning this with any other parent.

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      Josie Feliz

      December 13, 2018 at 10:07 AM

      Thanks for your message Jamie. We have forwarded your message to one of our helpline specialists who can help better answer your question, and she will be reaching out to you shortly.

      Our Helpline is a good place to start if you’d like to talk to someone about what you’re going through. Feel free to connect with us in whichever manner you choose in the future:

      Thank you. -The Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

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