What If My Spouse and I Don’t Agree on How to Handle Our Child’s Substance Use?

It can be challenging trying to figure out how to best approach your son’s or daughter’s substance use. It can become even more challenging when you and your significant other don’t agree on how to handle it.

“Disagreements are understandable,” explains Master Addictions Counselor Mary Ann Badenoch, LPC, in this short video. “But helping [your child] includes finding ways to collaborate with each other.”

Watch this short video where Badenoch offers suggestions on how to work together to improve communication and collaboration with your spouse or partner so you can better help your son or daughter.

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    Waseme Little

    October 14, 2019 at 9:53 PM

    I think I’m having so much anxiety that I dont even know what words to use to talk to my son about his pain, depression and drug abuse. I feel alone because my husband has tapped out because when we go to therapy he feels blamed. So he is arrested in not gonna be my fault syndrome and I’m arrested in evening know what I should be requiring of my son and creating a consequence that i will be able to stick to that’s reasonable and makes sense and will prayerfully yield positive results. Last time we tried counseling was 2017. Both my son and husband refuse to go back. My son is almost 25 lives at home with us has no steady job is not in college and smokes weed. This behavior has been going on since june 2017

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    Ron Grover

    February 20, 2018 at 11:14 AM

    There were many times my wife and I didn’t not agree on how to handle our addicted son. Finally we agreed that whenever we didn’t agree we would always follow the most conservative route.

    For instance, if I wanted to throw him out of the house but she didn’t, it was my role to respect her and allow him to live in the home. No matter if I thought I was right.

    The justification was that we were dealing with a deadly disease and radical actions could be fatal. Neither of us had the right to put the other in a position of eternal suffering due to taking dramatic steps with deadly consequences.

    The real story is communication. As emotionally challenging as these discussions are they must be done. If they cannot be done between two people without a breakdown, bring another person in to help that you both respect.

    Not talking is not an option.

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