Is My Son Really in Recovery if He’s Taking Suboxone?

My son is taking suboxone for an opioid addiction. Is he in recovery?

A mom recently called me with a question about Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT) and recovery:

“After almost losing my son to a heroin overdose — not once but twice — and then watching him go in and out of rehabs many times, he finally seems like he’s getting back on track, now that he’s getting help with Suboxone. Although I am relieved, I am also confused because some people tell me he’s not really in recovery if he’s taking Suboxone.”

Here is what I told her:

It’s wonderful that your son has been able to get his life back on track, as it can take many exposures to treatment, medications, lifestyle changes and family support to manage an opioid use disorder. As for recovery, it looks different for every person. Some people, like your son, use medications as part of their recovery program while others don’t.

Suboxone (a brand name for Buprenorphine) and other forms of medication-assisted treatment, like methadone and Vivitrol (a brand name for Naltrexone), are overwhelmingly supported by medical and behavioral health groups. These include the American Society of Addiction Medicine, the National Council of Behavioral Health and the U.S. Surgeon General as well as many treatment centers and support groups.

A person who takes these medications as directed under the care of a physician is like a patient who takes medication to treat any other disease (like diabetes or heart disease). When used in conjunction with comprehensive therapy and support groups or other forms of treatment, MAT increases the rate of success.

It can be confusing that while MAT can help your child’s recovery, it’s still controversial. MAT is controversial because some treatment programs and support groups define “success” as total abstinence from these medications as well as all drugs and alcohol. While this may be a realistic approach and a goal for some, many people, especially those who have struggled with heroin and other opioids, need medication as part of a comprehensive recovery plan. It’s the same with diabetes. Some people can manage their disease using diet and exercise while others need medication to stay healthy.

Bottom Line: Look at the big picture of your child’s life. You know your kid. You know when he’s doing okay and when he’s not. There are many opinions out there and part of self-care is taking others’ opinions with a “grain of salt.”  So, how is your kid doing these days now that he is not actively using substances?

  • Is he contributing to society in some way by attending school, volunteering or working?
  • How are his current lifestyle and habits in general? Is he taking better care of himself?
  • Is he attending support group meetings or getting some form of ongoing support or counseling?

If he’s no longer misusing the substance that was getting him into chronic trouble and threatening his health — and his life — then perhaps you will decide that Suboxone is helping him function more normally again.

At the end of the day, “recovery” is a subjective term. It means something different for each and every person. Find people who are supportive of MAT. Talk with them regularly and support one another. In the meantime, treat the opinions of others lightly and rely on your own instincts when it comes to your child.

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Has your son or daughter used medication-assisted treatment? Have you encountered people who don’t believe he or she is in recovery? Please share your experiences in the comment section below.

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    July 17, 2019 at 6:55 PM

    Im 28. Ive been in suboxone treatment for 3 months. I actually got it off the street to try to quir other drugs and have been doing it for 2 years. Just recently i finally went to a doctor and got prescribed it. Heres a run down of my day to day.

    Once a month i get a day off of work, (that i put two weeks notice in for). I drive to the doctors. I take a drug test to prove only suboxone is in my system. He talks to me for a half an hour about, work, family, how im doing mentally, physically. We talk doses. He sends my prescription to the pharmacy. I pick it up. I return to work the next day a hard worker. I get home. Get my kids. Love them and play with them and show them i care. I go to sleep with them on my side.

    For 28 days

    Then once a month, i get a day off..that i put in for..

    Blah blah.

    Ive done a lot of drugs . I cut myself. I wanted to die. And i.can tell you why i did all of this.

    It happened when i realized i was no longer a child. When imagination was defeated by expectation. When fun was replaced with responsibility. When family turned grew apart and older. It took a lot of soul searching. If you have children. Love them. Support them. Suboxone, along with therapy, helped my back pain, stopped my addictions. And got me on the right track. Stick to the plan. If anything can help bring someone out of that darkness, support it. Because so very few never make it out.

    God is life.
    God is love

    Love is understanding.

    Love is eternal.


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      September 17, 2019 at 8:03 AM

      I have been on MAT treatment for 40 years. I believe it’s very important treatment for some people who struggle with drug addictions.i used to suffer from chronic depression,audio hallucinations,suicidal tendencies & self harm w/cutting and burning. Ever since getting on MAT (Methadone) I have had no desire to commit suicide, self harm & my chronic depression and audio hallucinations are completely gone. I no longer have cravings for heroin either. Before I was on MAT,I went through cycles of using,jail, using, drug treatment
      ,using, hospitalization,overdosing,using. I was no good to anybody & a danger to myself and others. MAT has worked wonders as it not only stops my addiction cold, it has improved all of the symptoms I was suffering with. My doctor told me that’s because of methadones anti psychotic & anti depression properties. Since I’ve been on it so long (40 years) I assume I will be on it the rest of my life and that’s OK with me.

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