Is My Son Really in Recovery if He’s Taking Suboxone?

My son is taking suboxone for an opioid addiction. Is he in recovery?

A mom recently called me with a question about Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT) and recovery:

“After almost losing my son to a heroin overdose — not once but twice — and then watching him go in and out of rehabs many times, he finally seems like he’s getting back on track, now that he’s getting help with Suboxone. Although I am relieved, I am also confused because some people tell me he’s not really in recovery if he’s taking Suboxone.”

Here is what I told her:

It’s wonderful that your son has been able to get his life back on track, as it can take many exposures to treatment, medications, lifestyle changes and family support to manage an opioid use disorder. As for recovery, it looks different for every person. Some people, like your son, use medications as part of their recovery program while others don’t.

Suboxone (a brand name for Buprenorphine) and other forms of medication-assisted treatment, like methadone and Vivitrol (a brand name for Naltrexone), are overwhelmingly supported by medical and behavioral health groups. These include the American Society of Addiction Medicine, the National Council of Behavioral Health and the U.S. Surgeon General as well as many treatment centers and support groups.

A person who takes these medications as directed under the care of a physician is like a patient who takes medication to treat any other disease (like diabetes or heart disease). When used in conjunction with comprehensive therapy and support groups or other forms of treatment, MAT increases the rate of success.

It can be confusing that while MAT can help your child’s recovery, it’s still controversial. MAT is controversial because some treatment programs and support groups define “success” as total abstinence from these medications as well as all drugs and alcohol. While this may be a realistic approach and a goal for some, many people, especially those who have struggled with heroin and other opioids, need medication as part of a comprehensive recovery plan. It’s the same with diabetes. Some people can manage their disease using diet and exercise while others need medication to stay healthy.

Bottom Line: Look at the big picture of your child’s life. You know your kid. You know when he’s doing okay and when he’s not. There are many opinions out there and part of self-care is taking others’ opinions with a “grain of salt.”  So, how is your kid doing these days now that he is not actively using substances?

  • Is he contributing to society in some way by attending school, volunteering or working?
  • How are his current lifestyle and habits in general? Is he taking better care of himself?
  • Is he attending support group meetings or getting some form of ongoing support or counseling?

If he’s no longer misusing the substance that was getting him into chronic trouble and threatening his health — and his life — then perhaps you will decide that Suboxone is helping him function more normally again.

At the end of the day, “recovery” is a subjective term. It means something different for each and every person. Find people who are supportive of MAT. Talk with them regularly and support one another. In the meantime, treat the opinions of others lightly and rely on your own instincts when it comes to your child.

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Has your son or daughter used medication-assisted treatment? Have you encountered people who don’t believe he or she is in recovery? Please share your experiences in the comment section below.

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    October 13, 2017 at 7:38 PM

    I came home one day and related a story to my husband, who’d been clean for 15+ years at the time, about a guy who said he’d gotten high after a fight with his wife. My husband said, “That’s why you don’t hang out with those people. At this point, I wouldn’t know where to go, who to see, or how much money to bring. And I’d have to make a series of very embarrassing phone calls to find out”

    Granted, that was before the internet was such a robust resource. But my concern with methadone in particluar is that you’re in regular contact with “those people,” and it’s too easy to trip up on a rough day. I’m less familiar with subuxone and vivitrol, and whether they have to be as carefully doled out to prevent misuse. If they don’t, the comparison to meds for other chronic diseases is more valid.

    In the end, yes we will probably find out these meds have long term side effects we hadn’t considered. They’re still better than an OD. If they provide a step in the right direction and help people become productive members of society, I’m all for them.

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    Sherri Kelly

    October 13, 2017 at 6:48 PM

    My loved one, who takes Zubsolve, is working, enjoying his life clean & pursuing his passions. He has pretty much left behind all things from his life while in active addiction. Things like stealing, lying, living put of his car, panhandling… He and I connect and communicate again. All the anger he once had is not present any longer. He goes to individual & group counseling. He has a treatment team for his addiction. 2 Drs, a nurse, social worker, psychiatrist and a community health worker. His insurance covers all of this care. To be completely honest, I am filled with gratitude just because he is alive and off opiates. Everything else is icing on the cake. I got my loved one back. I pray he will always have affordable coverage for his addiction & mental health needs. And I support him continuing on MAT as long as his team & he believe it necessary.

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