Thanks For Never Giving Up On My Struggle With Addiction, Dad.

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Dear Dad,

Ever since I can remember, you’ve been my hero. From carrying me to the hospital after I fell and cracked my head in New York City while eating ice cream, to lending me your shoulder to cry on when I broke up with my college sweetheart, you’ve been by my side through it all.

Most of all, you never gave up on me during my battle with drug addiction. I know this was no small feat for you, but you persevered where others would have easily given up. Despite all the times I said I hated you and all the doors I slammed in your face when I was at my worst, never once did you turn your back on me and leave. In fact, you always went the extra mile to ensure that I was safe, even if at the time I didn’t realize it was for my best.

From taking me to countless doctors’ appointments, refusing to let me go out with friends, grounding me for stealing alcohol from our house, to even calling the police to get me out of a dangerous situation with bad people. You have bent over backwards throughout my struggle with addiction and have always refused to let me fall deeper into the grips of my addiction. I know without a doubt, without you in my life I would have surely reached the point of no return with my disease.

My path of destruction with addiction came to a halt and I was able to receive the professional care all because of you. You never gave up on me and that gave me the ability to enter long-term treatment. Despite my kicking, crying and screaming, you always remained patient and empathetic to what I was going through. Today, I am clean and sober mainly because you stayed determined to get me help.

Recovery is no easy path and I have character flaws that I’m still working on. We both know that it hasn’t always been smooth sailing since I have ended my addiction and there are days where I admittedly lose sight of your compassion and generosity. So this Father’s Day, I want to recognize you and the amazing fact that you do so much for me because you love me. I know that all you have ever wanted was for me to be happy and healthy.

I may not say it enough, but I am truly grateful for all that you have done and continue to do for me, day in and day out. I would not be alive and well today if it weren’t for you. It is an honor to be able to call you my dad.

My advice for other fathers out there (and to parents in general) is to never, ever give up on your child with a drug or alcohol problem. You may likely come to a point where you have lost hope and feel as though there is nothing more you can possibly do for your child’s addiction. But I assure you, just as my father did, there is always something more that can be done to help your child.

One great place to start is the Partnership for Drug Free Kids’ helpline at 1-855-DRUGFREE (1-855-378-4373). Their trained specialists will listen to you and inform you of different resources available to help.

Thank you Dad, for everything. I hope that showing the strength and courage you displayed in the face of my addiction will serve to inspire other parents in similar situations.

Recovery 101

Recovery occurs over time — it is not a single moment in time. It is a constantly evolving period that requires work to maintain.

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    Mo

    July 21, 2017 at 1:19 AM

    Thank you. I am a father and struggling alongside my daughter to get her the help she deserves. I am glad both you and your father have the insight for the fact its important not to give up hope.

    What I am hoping to do for my daughter is provide the means and environment just like your Dad so that our daughters get a chance to utilize the gift of life through the hardships. Hope everyone gets this simple concept and not take the easier path of opting out and wait until the rock-bottom concept prevails; what if there is just no more life to save 🙁

    Thank you for sharing.

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    Lizzy

    August 14, 2016 at 4:54 PM

    Sofia, thank you for giving this mother a little hope as I sit here feeling that my son at 21 is lost forever. I hope my husband and I can be as strong as your dad. I hope you hugged him today!!

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    Mary D

    June 22, 2015 at 11:30 PM

    It is with great thoughts that I hope you are still doing what you can to treat the disease.
    Only you can create your own destiny. God Bless and God Speed. Stay Up.

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    Denise

    June 18, 2015 at 8:58 AM

    Sofia – A heart felt and beautiful share, This warmed my heart beyond words. Much luck and happiness to you on your future success. Thank you Sofia and thank you dad. Both of you are an inspiration. This story will no doubt plant some seeds, educate so many and save some lives too.

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