Does My Child Need to ‘Hit Rock Bottom’ to Recover from Addiction?

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One of the most deeply ingrained viewpoints in our culture is the concept of rock bottom. “You have to let him hit rock bottom before he can get better,” is a common refrain that many parents hear when their child is struggling with substance use or addiction. But is that really true?

The problem with the universal concept of “hitting rock bottom” is that it’s a moving goalpost. How can you decide what the limit is that your child needs to hit in order to decide that the costs outweigh the benefits? And most importantly, why do you have to wait to get to that point — which may never come — to help motivate your child to change?

The reality is that you can help influence and motivate your child to get better now, regardless of any arbitrary waiting period. Watch Helpline Specialist Karla explain how you can do this:

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Helpline Specialists like Karla are ready to listen to your situation and your concerns about your child struggling with substance use, and help you make an action plan.

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    April 23, 2019 at 9:44 PM

    I have a 33 year old daughter who has mental health and has had substance abuse issues on and off for the last 17 years. She had to drop out of college for a semester to get treatment, which was a huge disappointment for me. Now she’s out, and she goes to meetings and hangs out with her newly sober friends. I have to say, I resent it. I resent that she’s mentally so chaotic, I hate that I’m simply good for using my car. I hope that someday she can think about something other than recovering from substance abuse. She has a psychiatrist and a therapist, both of whom specialize in substance abuse issues. But I hate it. I hate the whole thing. I wish she could be a normal human being.

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    January 28, 2019 at 2:58 PM

    How do you navigate health insurance for an addict over the age of 26 and in a yearlong rehab program?

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      Josie Feliz

      January 29, 2019 at 11:54 AM

      Thanks for your message Jackie. We have forwarded your message to one of our helpline specialists who can help better answer your question, and she will be reaching out to you shortly. Our Helpline is a good place to start if you’d like to talk to someone about what you’re going through. Feel free to connect with us in whichever manner you choose in the future:
      Thank you. -The Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

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