Underage drinking is a serious public health problem in the United States. Alcohol is the most widely used substance of abuse among America’s young people and poses enormous health and safety risks.
During summer break with BBQs, parties and more free time, it’s an important time to talk with your teens about alcohol.
At what age do kids start drinking?
Believe it or not, the average age for a first drink is 14.
Most underage drinking is in the form of binge drinking.
People ages 12-20 drink 11 percent of all alcohol consumed in the U.S. Although young people drink less often than adults do, when they drink, they drink more. That is because young people consume more than 90 percent of their alcohol by binge drinking.
Why is alcohol attractive to teens?
As children mature, it is natural for them to assert their independence, seek new challenges and try taking risks. Many teens want to try alcohol, but often do not fully recognize its negative effects on their health and behavior (see below for why it’s dangerous). Other reasons young people drink alcohol: peer pressure/to fit in, increased independence, stress/to escape or relax, to feel grown up among peers, to rebel, to relieve boredom or out of curiosity.
Teens’ Perception of Alcohol Use
- Almost half of teens (44 percent) do not see a “great risk” in drinking 5 or more drinks nearly every day.
- There is low social disapproval from peers: Only 34 percent strongly disapprove of “teens your age getting drunk.”
- It’s easy to get: 77 percent say alcohol is easily accessible. Also, 53 percent of current underage drinkers reported family and friends as their source for alcohol they consumed.
Underage Drinking is Dangerous
There is a range of risks and negative consequences. Underage drinking:
- Causes many deaths. Each year, 4,358 young people die in alcohol-related deaths as a result of underage drinking (car crashes, homicides, alcohol poisoning, falls, burns, drowning and suicides).
- Causes many injuries. In 2011, there were approximately 188,000 emergency room visits by people under 21 for injuries and other conditions related to alcohol.
- Impairs judgment. Drinking can lead to poor decisions about engaging in risky behavior, including drinking and driving, sexual activity (such as unprotected sex) and aggressive or violent behavior.
- Increases the risk of physical and sexual assault. Underage drinkers are more likely to carry out or be the victim of a physical or sexual assault after drinking than others their age who do not drink.
- Increases the risk of alcohol problems later in life. Research shows that people who start drinking before the age of 15 are four times more likely to meet the criteria for alcohol dependence at some point in their lives.
Other Risk Factors:
- Teen brains are more vulnerable to alcohol. Research shows that the teen brain doesn’t fully develop until 25. Alcohol can alter this development, potentially affecting brain structure and function. This may cause cognitive or learning problems and/or make the brain more prone to alcohol dependence. This is especially risky when people start drinking heavily at young ages.
- Mixing alcohol and prescription medicine is especially dangerous. It can cause nausea and vomiting, headaches, drowsiness, fainting, loss of coordination and puts you at risk for internal bleeding, heart problems and difficulties breathing.
- Alcohol and marijuana is also a dangerous combination, significantly impairing judgment. The level of intoxication and secondary effects experienced can be unpredictable. Learn more >
What Parents Can Do
Parents, you hold tremendous influence on whether your child decides to drink or not. Be clear to your teen that you disapprove of underage drinking. Talk often about the dangers of alcohol (see below for tips on talking). Here are other things you can do:
- If you choose to drink, model responsible drinking behavior.
- Sometimes we unintentionally send kids the message that we need alcohol to cope with problems or have a good time. After a long, stressful day, instead of pouring yourself a glass of wine or beer, try modeling healthy behavior like deep breathing, exercise or stretching. Find ways to celebrate without alcohol.
- Research shows that a child with a parent who binge drinks is much more likely to binge drink than a child whose parents do not binge drink.
- If you are struggling with a drug or alcohol problem, reach out for help.
- Do not make alcohol available to your child.
- Be actively involved in your child’s life and have regular conversations with your teen about what’s going on and how she/he is feeling.
- Get to know your child’s friends – as well as their parents/caregivers.
- Encourage your teen to participate in healthy and fun activities that do not involve alcohol. If your child seeks new challenges, guide him/her toward healthy risks.
- Kids ages 11-14 see approximately 1,000 alcohol ads a year. Discuss what you see and help put context around the alcohol messaging your child receives from friends and the media.
The best thing you can do is communicate regularly with your teen. Here’s how:
- Try to preserve a position of objectivity and openness. If you want to have a productive conversation with your teen, try to keep an open mind and remain curious and calm. That way, your child is more likely to be receptive to what you have to say.
- Ask open-ended questions. These are questions that elicit more than just a “yes” or “no” response from your teen and will lead to a more engaging conversation.
- Let your teen know you hear her. Use active listening and reflect back what you are hearing from your teen — either verbatim, or just the sentiment. For example, I’m hearing that you feel overwhelmed, and that you think drinking helps you relax. Is that right?”
- Discuss the negative effects of alcohol, and what that means in terms of mental and physical health, safety and making good decisions. Talk about the long-term effects.
- If you’re child’s interested in drinking, ask her why – and what might happen if she does. This gets your teen to think about her future, what her boundaries are around drinking – and some of the possible negative consequences (she may be late to practice, do something stupid in front of her friends, feel hungover.) It will also give you insight into what’s important to her.
- Offer empathy and compassion. Let your child know you understand. The teen years can be tough. Acknowledge that everyone struggles sometimes, but alcohol is not a useful or healthy way to cope with problems. Let your child know that he/she can trust you.
- Remind your child that you are there for support and guidance – and that it’s important to you that she/he is healthy and happy and makes safe choices.
- If there is a history of addiction or alcoholism in your family, then your child has a much greater risk of developing a problem. Be aware of this elevated risk and discuss it with your child regularly, as you would with any disease. Learn more >
- Is there a problem? Keep an eye on how your child is coping. Does he or she seem withdrawn or uninterested in the usual activities? These are signs that your child might be hiding something or need some guidance.
If You’re Throwing a Party:
- Supervise all parties to make sure there is no alcohol – and make sure your teens know the rules ahead of time.
- Set a start and end time for the party.
- Make sure an adult is at home during the party and regularly checking in.
If Your Teen is Attending a Party:
- Know where your child will be. Call the parents in advance to verify the occasion and location and that there will be supervision.
- Indicate your expectations to your child and the parent hosting the party.
- If the activity seems inappropriate, express concern and keep your child home.
- Assure your child that he/she can call you to be picked up whenever needed.
- Use this sample contract as a guide to establish rules about drugs and alcohol.
If you are worried about your child’s drinking or drug use, please call our Parents Toll-Free Helpline at 1-855-DRUGFREE (1-855-378-4373) to speak with a trained and caring specialist.
Wishing you and your family a safe and healthy summer.
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- Shelby Allen’s life was tragically cut short by alcohol poisoning after a night of binge drinking. Read her story >
- AlcoholScreening.org helps people assess their drinking patterns to see if alcohol is harming their health. Visit alcoholscreening.org >
- Police Chief Asks Parents to Face the Realities of Teen Drinking (The Washington Post) Learn more >
- More Than One Million Full-Time College Students Consume Alcohol on Average Day (Join Together) Learn more >
- Sober is the New Drunk: Why Millennials are Ditching Bar Crawls for Juice Crawls (The Guardian). Learn more >
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