If You Discover Your Child is Using Drugs: Start Talking

Discovering that your child could be using substances stirs up a lot of emotion. The best way to find out what’s going on, and to begin helping, is to start talking. Learn how to have a conversation instead of a confrontation.

Set the stage

Take a deep breath and set yourself up for success by creating a safe, open and comfortable space to talk.

Remain calm

As angry or frustrated as you feel, keep reminding yourself to speak and listen from a place of love, support and concern.

Start talking

You’ve collected your thoughts and steeled your nerves, but how do you actually start talking? And more importantly, get your child to talk too?

Work through barriers

It can be difficult to get past a flat-out denial of substance use. Some kids can’t bear to take responsibility for their behavior and want to look good at all costs.

Keep an open dialogue

Have you succeeded in having a productive conversation? Give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back, but don’t stop there. Keep the dialogue open.