This article is part of a series on navigating teens stress and anxiety, a common reason for substance use. Find the full series at Stress & Drug Use: What Every Parent Should Know.
In our high-pressure culture, teens often strive to meet the expectations of their parents, their peers and themselves. But this can often lead to anxiety, worry or stress overload — and have dangerous effects on their health.
To learn more how parents can detect when their child is experiencing a ‘normal’ amount of stress and when it reaches a level at which a parent should be worried, we reached out to two pediatricians at Columbia University Medical Center, Rachel A. Bring, MD and Karen Soren, MD.
Stress is a very broad term that can refer to anything that causes strain or tension in our lives. Anxiety is the feeling of worry, nervousness or unease that can occur either in response to a specific stressor (such as a test, a performance or a new social situation). Anxiety can also be a more generalized feeling of dread, with no specific trigger.
Everyone can feel some level of anxiety, but anxiety can be problematic when it becomes so overwhelming that it impacts your child’s daily activities or school performance. Some warning signs include not being able to control the worrying, having difficulty relaxing, feeling restless and unable to sit still, or feeling afraid that something awful might happen. Some teens may even experience symptoms of panic, including a racing heart, difficulty breathing or chest tightness.
If teens start to experience significant anxiety, they can often benefit from mental health counseling or other resources that can provide coping techniques to help manage the anxiety. This is something to discuss with your teen’s doctor.
Adolescence is a very stressful time, filled with increasing amounts of schoolwork, new and evolving friendships, peer and/or family conflicts, peer pressure, and stress relating to college applications — just to name a few. People cope with stress in different ways, and often, stress can be helpful — it can push a teenager to perform better, study harder, etc.
It is critical, though, that teens undergoing stress still have the ability to function well at school and at home. Red flags indicating a potential problem include: changes in eating habits, difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, significant mood changes including depression, anxiety, panic or anger, demonstrating violent behaviors or utilizing alcohol, marijuana or prescription drugs to deal with stress. If you have concerns about your teen specifically, you can always reach out to their doctor to address these issues.
Definitely – every year, we see more and more anxiety in our practices. Teens today often feel pressured to excel in everything (school, extracurricular activities, and sports). It can be incredibly stressful to strive to be the “total package.”
We do see some stimulant abuse (often secondary to diversion — a child with ADD giving or selling his or her medication to friends) in high school. But this tends to be more common in college and graduate school settings, where students tend to cram for exams and stay up all night writing papers. As abusing stimulants can have negative side effects and promote unhealthy study habits, parents need to be vigilant and discuss any suspicion of use/abuse with their child.
Yes, we do see this in teens, and it’s dangerous. Many of the anti-anxiety medications can be addictive, and withdrawal from those medications can result in irritability, sleeplessness and even seizures.
Adolescence is often a time when teens start to establish independence from their parents, valuing their privacy and relying more on friendships to discuss their stresses and worries. However, parents can try to keep the lines of communication open and make sure their teen knows they are always a source of support if needed. Spoken and unspoken parental pressures regarding school performance and college preparations can add to teen stress and anxiety. Parents can try to communicate to their teen that it’s okay if they aren’t perfect; making mistakes and learning from those mistakes is critical. Parents need to value effort and not be too focused on results.
Parents can actually be really helpful in mitigating stress in their children by respecting effort and nurturing independence but being available for support when needed.