I Have Tried Everything to Help My Child. What Else Can I Do?

We work with a special group of moms and dads – Parent Coaches – who, just like you, have been affected by a child’s substance use. They are volunteers who receive special training from the Partnership and our clinical partner in order to help other families through similar struggles. In these blog posts, they answer parents’ most frequent questions.

You are not alone in feeling this incredible pain. Most parents are not prepared for this emotional, heartbreaking, and exhausting journey. It can be mentally and physically overwhelming to see our children in pain. The uncertainty, the worry and fear will often lead to exhaustion and isolation. If left unattended, this exhaustion can lead to negative health consequences including depression, anxiety, and fatigue. All of this can reduce your resiliency making it more difficult to be effective in helping your child as well.

There is an expression, “You’re only as happy as your unhappiest child.” You may find yourself yelling and even screaming, nagging, begging, crying, or just shutting down which can lead, as you said, giving up. Acknowledging your feelings to your self can be the beginning in helping you defuse them. Just being aware, taking a breath and stepping back might help keep those emotions and behaviors in check, helping you to keep your negative emotions from bursting out. Often, letting your negative feelings simply be allows them to pass. Learning how to let them pass will allow you process and let those positive emotions set which can be critical in helping your child. Easier said then done right? There are tools and strategies that can help you get to this place, help you engage with your child and stay connected – all of which are critical in helping your child.

Would you like to connect with one of our Specialists for one-on-one help and learn more about Parent Coaching? Email us to get started.