We are constantly told not to isolate. I’m here to tell you its okay to be alone, for a while. This pain is what I call our ‘deepest soul’s anguish’. We must be allowed to grieve in private. It’s when the isolation becomes out of balance that we run into dangerous territory.
A big issue for me has been the guilt I feel as I move on without my daughter. How do you have fun or enjoy anything when someone you love is lost in their disease? Figuratively speaking, I keep the porch light on. I let her know we love her, we are here if and when she wants to seek help. We will do what we can but the reality is that she has to make her journey in her own time and I have to make mine in my own time. I choose now.
I recently met a mom who felt her four kids didn’t appreciate how good they have it so she is taking them to a soup kitchen this week. Shes hoping that doing community service will give them a greater perspective on the world, help them appreciate what they have, and get a chance to find […]
There’s a rapidly growing anxiety among teens. Its all about being constantly connected and how feeling out of the loop is well, torturous. And its no laughing matter. Many teens I talk to feel compelled to check Facebook constantly and respond to email and text messages immediately no matter where they are and what they’re […]
And it sure isn’t easy for parents and caregivers who are full of concern about a child’s drug or alcohol problem or addiction. As Annette points out, these feelings are numerous and intense: fear, anger, guilt, panic, sadness, confusion, disbelief and more.
Some parents believe that one way to prevent their children from binge drinking in college is to allow them to drink in high school. (I guess their thinking is that by letting their teens practice drinking in high school, they wont overdo it when they find themselves on campus—especially if theyre at one of the […]
When my daughter was spinning out of control from her addiction, there were difficult decisions to be made. One of the most frustrating things was seeking treatment options for her. I spent a lot of time, effort, and money on programs that did not work — before finding a successful solution.
When you find out that your teen has been using drugs and alcohol, it’s time to accept the new reality and act sooner rather than later. Intervening to help get your child back on track is not an easy solution. Your kid may kick and scream and protest and shut down, but chances are it will help, as it did in my case. If you aren’t getting through to your child, enlist the help of an interventionist or counselor.