My brother and I secretly bought uncensored Dr. Dre albums in high school and played them whenever my parents were not home. We also had an elaborate system to hide, but keep readily accessible, our Eminem CDs (we liked rap). While thinking about this minor form of rebellion, I couldn’t help but wonder: …if I […]
Just read this fantastic guest blog on Lisa Belkins Motherlode (New York Times). This brave mother, Janice Lynch Schuster, has two teens currently battling what she figuratively refers to as a big black snake or, as it is more commonly known, drug and alcohol addiction. I’m sure that most parents who have watched their children […]
Though it is important not to rush into labeling a difficult teenager, not to rush into medication as the answer, parents are wise to become informed about symptoms and seek counsel with highly qualified professionals who can keep an eye on what’s going on, especially if there is some family history of depression or manic behavior.
My stepdaughter Katherine was living on the streets with her “meth family.” We were in a panic, wondering where she was, where she was sleeping, if she was eating, if she was alive — or if we were about to receive the dreaded call every parent fears.
For my family members and intimate others, it feels like I have stolen things that belonged to them, that I have in some cases revealed to the world their innermost secrets. A betrayal of profound proportions.
When you suspect your child is in trouble, one of the most difficult challenges is figuring out how to approach him or her. Beyond dealing with their particular substance abuse, the big question is how to get them engaged and encouraged to accept treatment.
He last used thirty minutes ago. Morphine. He prefers not to mention his pharmaceutical source. He’s been using since maybe he was thirteen: LSD, marijuana. Lots of LSD. Heroin? Off and on since he was in his late twenties. He’s dual diagnosis. Bipolar disorder. Onset probably about thirteen.
Recently, we had a scary incident occur at school for our 12-year-old son, Adam, that merits sharing. At the beginning of the school year, Adam’s first year in middle school, he befriended a boy I wasn’t completely comfortable with for various reasons (we’ll call the boy Joe). Adam, a kid with a big heart who […]
In the past 6 months, we have gotten about 20 to 30 emails from young people as well as parents reporting that shoplifting is a major concern. Here are some thoughts from my research as well as our teen trendsetter network. Ideas on Shoplifting: 1) Shoplifting Is Old Shoplifting has always been a problem among […]
I am free, I am free, I am free! I have heard both parents and teens chant this as they pack up the minivan and leave for college. Yet, parents often watch their kids leave, with tears in their eyes and forget to cover some essential pre-freshman topics. Since it’s now June, and your high […]
Doesn’t it seem like we’re getting hit with a lot of bad news these days? Well, here’s some good news to brighten your day:Little Leaguers are in agreement that use of performance-enhancing substances is bad. Sure, they don’t seem to entirely comprehend the health risks of using steroids and other performance-enhancing drugs. But your 11- […]
Just read mommy blogger Lisa Belkins article in the New York Times Magazine entitled Let the Kid Be. Let the kid be? What does this mean exactly? Here at the Partnership, we believe in creating and maintaining a strong bond with ones teen. Parents need to stay involved, keep an ongoing dialogue with their kids, […]
Yesterday I posted a great article on just how much teens are texting these days (hint: its even more than you think). So it may be hard to believe that while our kids are so steeped in their own little virtual worlds, they are actually hugging and non-sexually touching each other more than ever! In […]
One of my teen clients recently did a science lab in which she had to use Lego sets to build something. She told me that she normally hated building, but she loved this project because it made her feel efficient. Efficiency, she said, is the greatest feeling. The more I thought about it, the more […]
Michael Hausauer, a psychotherapist in Oakland, Calif., said teenagers had a terrific interest in knowing whats going on in the lives of their peers, coupled with a terrific anxiety about being out of the loop. For that reason, he said, the rapid rise in texting has potential for great benefit and great harm. Here’s the […]
When some kid is screaming for candy in the checkout line and the mother is reaching for the Hershey’s bar, I want to grab hold of her, like most people, and say, “Don’t do it!” However, because my own children had serious problems with drugs and I was so unaware during their teen years, I […]
The moms and dads who struggle with their child’s experimentation or behavior wonder where it will lead and how they will get through the challenges they face. But amidst the pain, there are insights and opportunities for growth that are profound. One such insight is from parents who have learned that the child who is […]
Sexting, the act of sending suggestive electronic text and/or picture messages, is something parents must be aware of—and talk to their kids about. If your child has a cell phone and is 10 or above, you need to have this conversation with them. Check out the facts below—and the related links for facts and tips […]
In President Obama’s recent online town hall meeting, one of the most discussed issues was the possibility of decriminalizing marijuana as a way of boosting the economy. Personally I’ve never taken much active interest in the debate of whether or not pot should be legal. I suppose that this is mostly because I’ve been sober […]
I wore a burgundy, floor-length halter dress, gold dangle earrings, and jasmine perfume. My date sported a black tux with silver cuff links and a white shirt. On my wrist a white corsage, my hair in a loose chignon. We had 8 pm dinner reservations at Linq, I ordered the blood orange and beet salad. […]
Last summer I blogged about how the presidents of more than 100 colleges and universities asked lawmakers to consider lowering the legal drinking age from 21 to 18.Then this month, comedian Stephen Colbert of Comedy Centrals satirical news show “The Colbert Report” interviewed the man leading the charge. John McCardell, the former President of Middlebury […]
A few weeks ago, my kids were home from school for a snow day and joined some others on the hill behind our house to sled. About noon, my phone rang. The woman on the other end proceeded to tell me how my son had been using terrible language that morning; saying things that an […]
Its occurred to me lately that my 3-year-old son has developed a somewhat alarmingly unhealthy relationship with cherry-flavored children’s Tylenol. He asks for it when his nose is stuffy or when he has a sore throat. Other times he will claim that more unusual body parts are giving him trouble. His bellybutton say, or occasionally […]
Our latest study on American teens just hit the streets. If you’re an adult with a child in your life you are the news! In our study that can be found here, 37 percent of teens reported “learning a lot” about the risks of drugs from their parents in 2008. That’s a significant 16 percent […]