People Say I Should Throw My Child Out But This Doesn’t Feel Right. What Should I Do?

We work with a special group of moms and dads – Parent Coaches – who, just like you, have been affected by a child’s substance use. They are volunteers who receive special training from the Partnership and our clinical partner in order to help other families through similar struggles. In these blog posts, they answer parents’ most frequent questions.

Thank you for asking this important question. It upsets me when I hear people say to throw your child out (of the house). I understand why that doesn’t feel right to you. I have heard the same thing in a variety of support groups and from some “professionals” in the field. This is especially disturbing early in the process, when parents are less knowledgeable, scared, and desperate for answers. Those telling you this may only know five-minutes of your family’s situation!

When our kids get very sick, stressed, or after a big fight, they may “throw” themselves out. They make the choice to leave; we didn’t throw them out.

It’s hard to stay calm, but expressing love and support for them keeps the door open for conversation when things settle down. We wouldn’t throw someone out if they had cancer or diabetes. However, if you are seriously being threatened and don’t feel safe that’s another matter. It may be necessary to call the police.

Would you like to connect with one of our Specialists for one-on-one help and learn more about Parent Coaching? Email us to get started.