Thank you for asking this important question. It upsets me when I hear people say to throw your child out (of the house). I understand why that doesn’t feel right to you. I have heard the same thing in a variety of support groups and from some “professionals” in the field. This is especially disturbing early in the process, when parents are less knowledgeable, scared, and desperate for answers. Those telling you this may only know five-minutes of your family’s situation!
When our kids get very sick, stressed, or after a big fight, they may “throw” themselves out. They make the choice to leave; we didn’t throw them out.
It’s hard to stay calm, but expressing love and support for them keeps the door open for conversation when things settle down. We wouldn’t throw someone out if they had cancer or diabetes. However, if you are seriously being threatened and don’t feel safe that’s another matter. It may be necessary to call the police.