How I Knew My Daughter Was Using Substances and in a Mental Health Crisis
It was like a light switch — I asked myself, “Where did my daughter go?” I found out it was both substance use and mental health issues at the same time.
We work with a special group of moms and dads – Parent Coaches – who, just like you, have been affected by a child’s substance use. They are volunteers who receive special training from the Partnership and our clinical partner in order to help other families through similar struggles. In these blog posts, they answer parents’ most frequent questions.
Thank you for asking this important question. It upsets me when I hear people say to throw your child out (of the house). I understand why that doesn’t feel right to you. I have heard the same thing in a variety of support groups and from some “professionals” in the field. This is especially disturbing early in the process, when parents are less knowledgeable, scared, and desperate for answers. Those telling you this may only know five-minutes of your family’s situation!
When our kids get very sick, stressed, or after a big fight, they may “throw” themselves out. They make the choice to leave; we didn’t throw them out.
It’s hard to stay calm, but expressing love and support for them keeps the door open for conversation when things settle down. We wouldn’t throw someone out if they had cancer or diabetes. However, if you are seriously being threatened and don’t feel safe that’s another matter. It may be necessary to call the police.