One of my teen clients recently did a science lab in which she had to use Lego sets to build something. She told me that she normally hated building, but she loved this project because it made her feel efficient. Efficiency, she said, is the greatest feeling.
The more I thought about it, the more I agreed. In fact, I think that letting teens feel efficient is actually a great self-esteem booster for them. Because I believe that efficiency is so important for teens, I’ve come up with a couple of scenarios where you as a parent can help your teen feel more efficient:
- When doing homework, encourage teens to do the subject they feel most proficient in and can complete most quickly first. They’ll feel less frustrated by the harder, more difficult homework assignments that follow.
- If your teen is feeling down or bad about herself, think of activities that will make her feel efficient and have her do them to boost her mood.
Remember, teens struggle through a lot (homework assignments, boring school novels, SAT/ACT prep), so its important to show them not just remind them that they can actually zip through certain things. And you can even use your kids efficiency to your own advantage have them wrap some gifts, unload the dishwasher, or fold the laundry for you!