I Never Thought My Child Would Hurt Me. How Can They Behave Like This?

We work with a special group of moms and dads – Parent Coaches – who, just like you, have been affected by a child’s substance use. They are volunteers who receive special training from the Partnership and our clinical partner in order to help other families through similar struggles. In these blog posts, they answer parents’ most frequent questions.

Dealing with a child’s addiction, can be likened to a seemingly never ending roller coaster ride causing deep pain. Often, we find ourselves reflecting back – thinking, I was a good parent; I raised my child with good morals and values. The hurt you feel and is not only understandable but valid.

When we begin to understanding our child’s substance use, we also begin to understand the underlying foundation for their use and why it might be rewarding for them in some way whether it be emotionally, physically, socially or maybe all the above. Understanding what your child’s reward, will help you to empathize with your child. Why do you want to be empathetic? It will help to understand that your child does not want to feel the pain he feels nor does he want to cause you pant. This will help you take it less personally, feel less angry and more connected.

A quote that might help you better understand – “Remember that your child truly has a disease. They do not want to feel the hurt they feel or cause the hurt they put on others. You may already mourn what seems like their lost potential. And yet consider how they must feel as they mourn themselves

Would you like to connect with one of our Specialists for one-on-one help and learn more about Parent Coaching? Email us to get started.