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We all have frustrating confrontations with our addicts. Most of us experience this every day. It is up to us to control our own actions and reactions to get through this in the least damaging way to ourselves. We really are in control of our own stress.
I have many drug-addicts and alcoholics in my life whom I love very much. And I have had a lot of practice dealing with them. It is hard work to achieve, but there can be some peace and serenity if we choose it.
Have you ever watched a hawk sit quietly while a small bird squawks and dive bombs him repeatedly? I saw this through my binoculars this morning. Seeing this reminded me that we can learn a lot about life by paying attention to nature.
I’m sure that this hawk would have been the victor if he chose to react to the small bird, but he remained calm and steady. After a few minutes, the small bird just flew away. The hawk continued to “hang out” in the tree taking in his surroundings, with a content smile on his face.
This action (really inaction) is an excellent example of one of the most important tools I learned when interacting with the drug addicts and alcoholics in my life. When I react to an addict’s manipulations and attacks, I feed into their drama. And we all know, drama is like another drug to them. As I learned to step back, not react but rather, retreat into my own inner world while right in front of them, they, like the small bird, finally back off and often go away. As I practiced this “inaction/non reaction” repeatedly, I became less stressed. Eventually, the addicts didn’t think it was worth the trouble when they got no response from me. As a result, there were fewer attempts at manipulation and personal attacks. They just had to work too hard at it and it wasn’t worth it to them.
The first few times are the most difficult. Try it. It can change the whole dynamic of your relationship with your addicted loved ones. I found that it gave me a bit more control over the overall situation. Have any of you tried this strategy?