The Holidays And How It Affects Families

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Jennifer

The holidays are fast approaching and many memories come flooding back.  We remember those loved ones who are no longer with us. Personally, In the past seven years, I have lost my daughter, Jennifer in 2009 and my grandson, Trey (Jennifer’s only son) has been absent from our family since November- 2008.  My daughter and my grandson are loved and dearly missed by me and our entire family.

To lose a child to an accidental overdose is very tragic.  To also be alienated from your grandson is a double tragedy.  When your child dies and is a single parent,  the other parent may choose to remove the child from their natural maternal grandparents after the death of other parent.  By making this choice, the parent is also alienating the child from two loving Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins and maternal Great- Grandparents.  This is a very selfish choice for the child.   To deny a child the love from extended family members is not considering the child’s feelings and frankly is, cruel.  You cannot replace childhood memories nor can your deny them a loving family without that affecting the child in the future.   It’s heartbreaking and confusing when a child’s parent dies. It’s doubly tragic when they also lose all of their family members at the same time.  My prayer is that your Dad will re-examine this choice and be lead by a discerning heart on your behalf.

I’m sure by now you have an understanding that sometimes life is not fair.  To lose your mother and all of your (maternal) family members is very unfortunate. I am sorry that you had to experience this tragedy.  I rely on my faith in God and have hope that my prayers (to maintain a healthy relationship with you), will be answered one day.  This is not an unreasonable expectation.

To my dear grandson, Trey Andrew Reynolds, (Yusuf Trey Ahmed), I want you to know you are always in my heart, always in my thoughts, and I am looking forward to the day you can re-connect with me and all of us again.  I know you are a 15 years old now. I hope and pray you are happy and enjoying high school, friends and other activities.  I know you live in the Tampa/Valrico area.

You have four cousins now: Kadyn (remember him?) Kylie, Kaitlyn, and Emery.  Kadyn, Kaitlyn and Kylie like to play video games, cook and draw. Emery is Uncle Nate’s daughter.  She will be turning one soon.  I can’t wait for you to see your cousins and Aunt Sarah & Uncle Kenny, Uncle Josh, Uncle Nate & Aunt Anessy and Pop-Pop and me again.  Do you remember (great) Grandma Patty?  She misses you too and would like to see you.  We want to hear all about your aspirations as you continue through high school and plan for college.

Have a wonderful holiday season and know you are always in our prayers, thoughts and hearts.

Much love,

Your Grandma

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    Simone

    April 25, 2017 at 7:49 PM

    My prayers for your family and I pray that God will lead Trey to seek out his family and unite

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