Where There Is Life, There Is Hope

Ron Grover Where There Is Life There Is Hope

During a very dark time a friend told me, “Where there is life, there is hope.” I don’t know if he knew how profound those words were to me.  In fact, I didn’t even know at the time.  I just heard the words and applied them to my son’s situation.

At face value, the statement is so simple.  Just seven words strung together telling me that as long as my son is alive there is hope he will see the light — that he can give up his life of drugs.

Then I began to think what does this really mean to me; what is the real meaning to that statement? After a lot of deliberation, I was able to feel the true meaning of those simple words.

Life is not just about our child with an addiction. Where there is life, there is hope applies to the parent’s life, too. We can hope for our child to see the light and we can also hope for our own acceptance, peace and happiness. This statement applies to all of us and all of those we love.

When I look around I see life all around me. A wife, daughters, mother, brother, sister, caring relatives and friends are in every direction I turn. That’s when it dawned on me: Where there is life, there really is hope!

Yes, there is! Where there is life, there is hope.

What does that statement mean to you?

Note: This post was originally published on March 18, 2011.

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Take some time to nourish yourself. It will not only be a gift for you, but for your loved ones, too.

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    Carolyn Reuben, L.Ac.

    March 23, 2017 at 12:20 AM

    Consider looking at a drug user as desperately needing to feel good inside. If he is tired and can’t generate enthusiasm he craves stimulation. It’s a sign his stimulant neurotransmitters are deficient and he needs to be swallowing the amino acid L-tyrosine. If he is irritable and can’t sleep and is compulsive and has low self esteem he is missing the neurotransmitter serotonin and needs to be swallowing the amino acid L-tryptophan or the amino acid 5HTP produced by L-tryptophan. If he is anxious he needs to swallow GABA capsules to produce more GABA inside his nervous system. And if he cries easily, suffers from physical or emotional pain, and craves comfort he needs to swallow the amino acid DL-phenylalanine to maintain more of the neurotransmitter endorphin. Talk therapy no matter how great the therapist won’t replace missing neurotransmitters that triggered the need for using the drug of choice in the first place! Read The Mood Cure by Julia Ross or Seven Weeks to Sobriety by Joan Mathews Larson or End Your Addiction Now by Charles Gant, MD and you will have a true roadmap to recovery that is fast and lasts a lifetime. Recidivism is a sign the treatment wasn’t solving the core biochemical need of the person. It ISN’T an inevitable part of drug recovery! Look for a treatment program (there are a pitiful few of them) that understands the need for nutritional treatment to cure the cause of addiction.

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    kim

    March 22, 2017 at 1:03 PM

    I feel your pain! my son was doing heroin for 7 years. I have been thru hell and back. I can only tell you they will only stop when they WANT TO. finally he did, hes on methadone now and it has saved his iife. good luck to you

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    kkourt

    December 30, 2015 at 1:35 PM

    Thank you Ron for the heart-felt post. To me “Where this is light, there is hope.” translates to “With Love, there is peace, clarity and an opening.”

    As a parent of a son with the disease of addiction during the toughest times it was hard for me to see that what my son and the family was experiencing was just one moment – and a very short moment – in a lifetime of moments past and to come. Luckily some wise and caring people reminded me of this and I latched onto that hope – “we’ll move through this in time.”

    It took me some time and work, but during those tough times when I was able to be still, silence the worry and the thoughts swirling around and owning me and pay attention to my heart and my breadth … and the love I have for my son.

    Well that was when the worry and fear subsided and peacefulness replaced the chaos. And often with this peace came a calming clarity of what it was that I should do — what exactly my role was at that moment in time. Often my “do” was pretty simple. I found that when I lead with and met my son with love (not fear/worry) an opening comes and by golly 🙂 that’s when I would fill up my son with love, a hug, and positive encouragement.

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    Patty

    April 18, 2014 at 10:42 PM

    Hello! First all of this is very new to me. I am in need of assistance
    I am the mother of 3 grown boys. My youngest is 22. He has turned to drugs. We tested him and tests were posituve as expected. He hasn’t worked since February. Started dating a past and present addict. He’s definitely running with the wrong crowd. We continued to keep him. Today our garage was broke into and expensive tools stolen while my son was around. He denied it all. My husband had enough and kicked him out of house and turned off his cell phone. He told him when you bring the things back and agree to get help he could come home. I told him I loved him and was here for him always. I am having a very difficult time with this all. Do I just leave him on the street to starve. To continue drugs? My kids are my life. And yes I believe that I have been enabling him. Can you please give me your advice…. Resources for my son and my family…. I truly appreciate it. I have been reading some posts. I understand I am not in this a lone. But I’m not sure how to get through all of this
    Please help!! Thank you!!

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